Sunday, August 23, 2009

just a friendly reminder.

So today I had to fill out paperwork for the Air Force. It was paper work saying that I would be responsible for S if something happens and the wife is deployed or detained for a long period of time. Now I understand that this is a safe guard for the unmarried solider and the child in question. However it just makes me mad that the wife and I consider ourselves married we consider S to be our but we are not, and he isn't mine. It makes me a bit sad to have to sign a paper that say I will care for my son until permanent custody can be established. I know that this is not anything that the wife has asked for. It is just one more way we are reminded that we are not treated equal. I do know that I am still super proud of the wife. I don't know if I would be able to serve in an organization that didn't like me for who I am. I do know that I will support her because this is what she wants to do. It was what she would still be doing if she hadn't gotten pregnant with S. It is who she is and it is the person I fell in love with. Besides she looks great in cammies.

6 comments:

kimber p said...

I've always been a sucker for a woman in cammies..*sigh*...

Windy Days said...

Ooooh! My wife was in the Army, too. Love me some camos!

Is she deploying any time soon?

Jude said...

I'm hoping that all of that will be changing soon. It's such a bunch of BS but you have to roll with it for now.

Dawg said...

You're amazing the way you support your wyfe :)

Margo said...

Wow,
Wow. I don't even know what to say about this.
The military is entering a new time though - it won't be much longer. It will better for you guys to already be associated with the military when the big changes happen - you will be making life better for all of us.
I don't care about equality - I just want some damn HEALTHCARE. you know what I mean?

Thinking of you guys.
Tell her to keep her head down.

homoglobia said...

Let us hope this all changes soon. Here in Australia, the government has extended welfare law to include same sex couples. Two single people received more benefits than a de facto couple so the move is entirely favourable to government coffers. No sign of any ACTUAL rights being delivered. Still, we soldier on.