do ask do tell

I am sure that most of you have seen this video by now but I felt it was worth posting. I think that it is sad that so many brave Americans are losing their jobs . In this economy you would think that we would do all we can to keep all Americans working. I guess it just goes to show you that not all Americans can be expect the same freedoms even brave lesbian and gay soldiers fight for. This issue is close to my heart. The wife is former Air Force and she got out when she got pregnant for our son. She had many commendations and achievement medals. She was very good at her job, and more than that she enjoyed it. I also enjoyed being part of her unit family. I had the opportunity to make some very great friends. It always surprised me that she was as out as she was with the unit. They all new about us, they all excepted us as a family and the fact that the wife was gay was never and issue. It just seems crazy that she had to chose to get out before she was kicked out. All we can hope is that this backward policy will be gone soon.

the gym.

so the wife and I joined our local community center gym about three weeks ago. I have been working out 5or 6 times a week. I have to say that I love it!!!! I have gotten so adictted to the feeling I get after and hour in the tredmill an 30 mins with the weights that if I had the time I would probelby go twice a day. Now here is the funny part. I mentioned to my friend the other day that I loved going to the gym. I don't know what I expected from her , nothing really but the reaction that I got shocked me. She said well your just like K, taking time away from your kids just to workout. I just looked at her. I mean I go to the gym before work and it's while the kids are in school, or we all go to the gym and walk the indoor track toghether I don't take any time from my kids, and what if I did give myself 90 mins to get healty and in a good state of mind would that be so bad? I guess that I should consider the source of this comment it was from a friend that got mad at me when I decided to lose weight before and lost 150 pounds. I have since put about 50 back on and I want to get rid of it again so I guess she will be mad again, oh well I have to do what is good for me and my family not her. It just surprised me she was so willing to put me down for a good habit. It makes me wonder what she would say if I told her I was going to start smoking crack??

to all the men in my life.

My ex husband once told me that i would never be able to keep my house without a man. I laughed in his face but inside i wondered how I would do it. I should say that I have a 109 yr old farm house and 42 acres. I have a well that you have to fill from another well and we have a 200 yard driveway,complete with bridge. It's alot of work. Of our 46 acres about 4 is what we consider yard and we have about 20 that is considered pasture. We don't have a tractor for the pasture and all that goes with it instead we have a Mark. This is the first Man in my life. He keeps our pastures cut and looking nice. he weed eats the largest part of our lane and he plows the drive in the winter when it snows. he does all of this for us and doesn't charge us a dime, of course he gets to keep the hay from the fields but what would we do with it. He also has told us to never hesitate to call if anyone bothers us or gives us a hard time. I knew him when I was married to the ex but he never came around. My next man is Allen, he is an ex con who brings us firewood in the winter and cuts our grass in the summer. Now I no what your thinking ex cons and kids don't mix. Not the case here Allen is also an ex drunk who has done all 12 of his steps and that is how he makes his living. 80 bucks a month works for all of us.So to the ex I say I guess your right... without a man I may be lost but at least I don't have to have a man in my bed to keep my house.oh and just for the record the wife and I have done more to improve this house in the last 5 years than I ever thought would get done in the 10 the ex lived here.

National day of silence

National day of silence
This Friday April 17th is the national day of silence. This is the biggest national event for middle and high school LGBT groups and their allies. I think that this is a good way for students to get involved in a way that is non confrontational and very visible. This year our 15 year old and some of her friends are going to participate. I have already looked up all the schools rules and regulations regarding the day, and while I can find no reason they shouldn’t be able to participate in the event I am sure that I will get a phone call on Friday. As I have said before we live in a small town and we have already been to the principal’s office once over HRC stickers. Apparently the daughter took some HRC stickers to school and passed a few out. Next thing you know she is in the principal’s office being accused of recruiting. It was not a good day here at home. I know that the school is only doing what they think is in the best interest of the students but come on give me a break. Our school sponsors meet me at the pole. For those of you who don’t know this is a day when kids meet at the flag pole to pray. Now I have no problem with this and think that the school should include diverse thinking, I just think they should be able to include the LGBT community in that thinking, if only for the handful of LGBTQ students that attend this school. So I have made sure that I have the day off from work so I can put out any fires that may arise at school. I’ll let you know how it goes. Have a great week

the sickies

So i blogged about the fact that I spent Christmas night at the er. They were very nice to me and gave me drugs that made me forget that i was in pain. Well last night baby S Spiked a fever and had yet another fibril sesiuror and we rushed him to the er. He is fine just panicked the wife and I. Then to top it all off K got up this morning complaining with chest pains and shortness of breath. this is the same thing that happened at her dads last week and he and the new wife told her it was a chest cold to suck it up. well off to the Dr we go. K has a history of atrial flutters and I was not willing to take a chance that it was something more than that. well our pediatrician is on vacation so we had to see the senior partner in the practice. this man is old and crabby, almost as soon as he came in the office the wife's new cell (which she hasn't mastered) started beeping and the man scolded my wife and told her to turn it off. No big deal we just kind of exchanged a look. Then get this in the middle of examining my daughter HIS cell rings.... he stopped and took a personal call in the middle of my daughters exam! EXCUSE ME OH NO YOU DIDN'T. I will deal with this just as soon as our Dr is back and we don't need this man. Anyway that wasn't even the worst part. K mentioned that she runs and the man had the nerve to tell her that her boobs were to big for her to run. WTF this man needs to retire or something. He then ordered a chest xray , EKG, and blood work to see what the problem is. So now we are home in front of the fire relaxing dinner is in the oven and soon we will eat and relax some more. we are keeping our fingers crossed that E stays healthy.

The debates

So we just finished watching the first debate. I am even more behind Obama, I think this man has our best interests at heart. I am not going to turn this blog into a political blog but I just know in my heart of hearts that this man is the best chance I have of getting to marry my wife and this is my biggest issue. I know that all people are sceptical of politicians and rightly so but come on if Obama can achieve 2% of what he says he wants to do is that not better than what we have now. I watched the debate and just felt that Mccain was just evil, the
smirks the condecending attitude the arogance. so I will stop now. just one last thing.

GO OBAMA!!!!

Guess I should Check in more often.

So I have not been on the ball lately. I was out of town for a week long business trip and then it's just been crazy at work, so I have neglected my blog. I got a nice email from someone who reads the blog who let me know I have received hate mail. I can't believe that my little blog about nothing received hate mail. does this mean that I have some how made it in the blog world ?? I think not I think that this person is probably just a small minded man who has been turned down by one to many lesbians so now he stalks the Internet looking to hurt or attempt to hurt women. I just want him to know that he has not hurt me he will not silence me and no I will not repent for loving my wife and the wonderful family that we have. All he has done is make it so I now have to approve the comments on this blog. Ouch oh ouch. I would remind this small minded person that we do live in a society that is still free no thanks to W but it is still a free country and I am able to love whom I chose and I believe that the goddess created me just the way I am. So put that in your pipe and smoke it patrick, and by the way you are a nut case.

mcSAME

so the wife decided that we needed to watch the Repblicans again tonight. It was a nauseating hour and a half. I watched mrs mcSAME read a dead pan speach verbatim and the wife wanted to know if we could request the cat in the hat next. I was not at all impressed. Then we sat threw mcSAME and though he infruiated me at time by running Barack into the ground. the man really didn't have much to say. I along with most Americans feel that what he suffered in Vietnam was a horrible thing that should never have happened to any one but when that is the best part of your speech what does that say about your platform. I know now that I will be out knocking on doors and registering people to vote even more now that I know just what a waste of time this man is. I will do my part to get Barack Obama elected. Ohio is a battleground state and I will do my part to help the democrates win not only my state but the white house.
GO Obama Go !!!!!

women erg!

I should start this by saying that I am not a hater. I am however sick of women, or more specificaly certain women that work for me. I am a market manager for a major protrait company and we employ 98% women. Now I love women individualy but this group of women is so getting on my nerve. I know that we all have things that come up and that we have children that get sick, have sports or other things that they are involved in, but come on this is your job! Grow up or quit, I know this sounds harsh and all but I too have a familty that is very active I also have a wife that works nights. I work about 60 hours a week and am soooo sick of these ladies thinking that what ever they want is going to happen, I honor what requests that I can but somewhere along they way these people have forgotten that a request is just a request and that it is never a guarantee that they will get it off. I just got off the phone with a young lady who would like me to find someone to work for her tomorrow so she can go to a tupperware party WTF !! It is 11:30 on saturday night who calls their boss at 11:30 f0r a damn tupperware party. I use to think that this was a great job but when did i start babysitting? I would have never called off like this or asked for 3 of 4 weekends off. I am sorry abotu the rant but I needed to vent, thanks for listining.
S