Troubled children

I know that I have talked about my oldest 2 kids not liking to be with their father before and I have at times thought that it would be better for our family if they didn't have to go so much, but then I also want them to have a relationship with him, so it has been kind of a catch 22. He use to be a great dad, then we split and he is one of those men that cant be alone and has made some choices that may be good for him but not so good for the kids. He has remarried and now has a step son that is 2 yrs younger than E. From what the kids say this boy has major behavior issues and is the major reason they don't like going to their dads. I have always just let them rant and reassured them that we love them. Well this weekend they came home from a week long stay with dad, and K told us that this boy touches himself in front of them ALL the time. They have told their father and he tells them to ignore him. Now I know that little boys get fascinated with their boy parts, and we have always told E that this is normal and if he need or wants to touch himself it's a private thing not to be done in front of others. I guess K has even looked up to see this boy touching himself and while staring at her and smiling. To write this gives me the creeps. Anyway, I am deeply troubled by this and the kids say it's so bad they don't want to be around him. I know if I say anything to the ex or the new wife they will blow it off and blame my kids. I have talked to a few people I know in the system and have found out that there is really nothing I can do legally because they haven't been physically harmed. It sucks to think that I am going to have to fight to keep them away from this. I have searched my mommy handbook and can't find this chapter anywhere. I am open to suggestions.

crazy people.

So as you know I am from a small town. The nearest gay bar is over an hour away, so as you can imagine we don't go very often. I do have a favorite drag queen that I like to see preform as much as possible so we make the trek several times a year. Here is where the crazy people come in. Today at work I had a lady bring her daughter into the studio to have her senior pictures taken. Not a big deal it's what I do. I looked at this lady at got that instant sense of dejavu. In my last position I traveled a bunch and would see people in different stores and what not as I was out and about, I figured that was where I had seen this particular lady. Then it hit me I had seen her out at a club that is now out of business. It was one of those places that old drag queens go to die type of places. anywho she looks at me and whispers I've never seen you before "wink wink". Now if this woman is not out to her family that is her business and I would never ever out someone on purpose. So i proceeded to talk to her daughter and see just what it was that she wanted to achieve with her shoot. The daughter went to get her first outfit on and the mom starts to come on to me ??? WTF ummm if you have seen me at the club you saw me with my wife, and you just told me that your family doesn't know your gay ummm get lost. All I could do was stare at this lady. Her daughter comes back and she continues to talk shit ohhh your so pretty wow love your hair, what was your name??? I had finally had enough and asked her to step out in the waiting area while I finished with her daughter. She left and her daughter actually thanked me. The crazy part was the daughters comment. "It wouldn't be so bad if she would just learn how to flirt." My jaw about hit the ground. i laughed and we finished her shoot and she was pleased. Mom continued to flirt or should I say try to flirt all threw the sales process. i just bit my tongue and laughed to myself.It made me glad to be out and proud and happily married.