ohhh what a weekend

The wife and I went out for the weekend to a women's music festival. It was one of the coolest weekends we have had for awhile. We heard lots of great bands, I had my first ever jello shot and we made new friends. Oh and we networked a bunch for work.
I also drunk dialed propane amy the first night and got drunk dialed by Dawg the second.We had lots and lots of fun.I needed this weekend after all the we have been going through with the kids and their situation. It was nice to get away and recharge the batteries. I am now ready for many more weekends full of cross country meets and parent stuff. I will leave you with some pics. (many more to come)The festival this weekend was in a club that use to be a bank. I have never been to a club where you walk through the vault just to find the potty. The wife had to ham it up a bit. The lovely lady in the purple bandanna was our host for the the weekend. As you can see she had her arms full.


This is the band Odd Girl Out from the Baltimore area,they rock. I developed quite a crush on the lead guitar player Selena.


This picture is for nannykaitlinn. girl if you figure out what this stands for I'll give you a dollar!

Amy tagged me...

So my buttercup amy @ propaneamy has tagged me, lets see if I can do this.




How it works... fill in your own answers and then pass it on to four bloggers of your choice.




1. Who is the hottest Movie Star?
Angelina no doubt

2. Apart from your house and car, what is the most expensive item you have ever bought?
hmmm camera's and the one I want costs more than my last car... It will have to wait.

3. What is your most treasured memory?
This will be tuff, but it would have to be from when I was little and my mom took my cousin and I on a hike in the woods. we got lost but I knew it was ok because my mom was there. we got home about 4 hours after we left. it was great

4. What was the best gift you ever received as a child?
My first camera. It helped me see the world in a whole new way.

5. What is the biggest mistake you have ever made?
I don't make mistakes... they are all life lessons that have gotten me where I am today.

6. 4 words to describe yourself?
outgoing,creative,unpredictable,arachnophob

7. What was your highlight or low light of 2009?
Low Light: can't think of one it was a good year

High Light: getting the house sided it was a work in progress for far to long

8. Favorite Film?
what dreams may come, and don't laugh A knights tale is my all time fave.

9. Tell me one thing I don’t know about you.
I am a list everything requires a list.

10. If you were a comic book/strip or cartoon character, who would you be?
shhh don't tell but I am Wonder woman!!!

So I tag

Dawg & miss Hottie

Dragon


That makes 4 since I added hottie with Dawg! lol

just a friendly reminder.

So today I had to fill out paperwork for the Air Force. It was paper work saying that I would be responsible for S if something happens and the wife is deployed or detained for a long period of time. Now I understand that this is a safe guard for the unmarried solider and the child in question. However it just makes me mad that the wife and I consider ourselves married we consider S to be our but we are not, and he isn't mine. It makes me a bit sad to have to sign a paper that say I will care for my son until permanent custody can be established. I know that this is not anything that the wife has asked for. It is just one more way we are reminded that we are not treated equal. I do know that I am still super proud of the wife. I don't know if I would be able to serve in an organization that didn't like me for who I am. I do know that I will support her because this is what she wants to do. It was what she would still be doing if she hadn't gotten pregnant with S. It is who she is and it is the person I fell in love with. Besides she looks great in cammies.

chasing rainbows

So this has been a crazy week here at home. We started the week off with a long talk to the kids father and both kids telling him they don't want to be there. It has gone well and both kids are much more relaxed this week. Wednesday the wife saw the recruiter and enlisted in the Air Force reserves. She is officially sworn in on October 10th. So we are once again an Air Force family. I am excited and scared and proud all at once. The kids start school next week and then the chaos really begins.
We had a great storm last night and when it was over we went looking for stuff to photograph. We found lots of clouds and then we saw it. a perfect double rainbow. this made me think of the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. I have found my gold in this wonderful group of ladies that are refocksa. Even though this week was crazy I knew that at the end of the day there would be someone who understands what's going on. Someone to listen and someone with kind words of encouragement. So to you all I say thank you for being my pot of gold.

Honest Scrap

Dawg awarded me with this Honest Scrap Award.

There are three rules for this award:
First, link back to the person who gave you the award (see above)
Next, give the award to 10 other bloggers.

1 Propaneamy Any one who wears a human condom is ok with me! no seriously love ya Ames

2 Jude at 7sences I want to shoot like she does!

3 Lilliegirl: She has more Patience than 10of me.

4 unlawfully wedded wife. She was one of my first blogger buddies!

5 KimberP at I know right. she is a fellow buckeye and has a heart of gold

6 Tina from tina-cious.com she is a fellow feisty femme

7 holden from packing vocals. for helping me understand the wife a little more.

8 Solo at Solohomo. She makes great vids!!

9 ok so I was going to tag dragon and rocket but they got tagged.

Second part of this is to tell 10 things about me

1 I love to read and can burn through books like they are water.

2 I use to work as a phlebotomist and now the thought of needles makes me feel yucky

3 I have given up on trying to look the part of a lesbian. I am what I am no matter how I look.

4 My wife is very excited about #3,but she did have fun laughing at me for trying to look butch.

5 I love to shoot pictures and don't ever leave home without a camera or two.

6 I have more shoes than I will ever wear and I know it. ( don't tell the wife I know)

7 I love hockey GO BLUE JACKETS!

8 I want to run my first 5k this year.

9 I love eminem thanks to the wife.

10 I use to be a beauty queen. NO COMMENTS!

ok So my links aren't working. who knows.

kido update

So we saw the father today and the kids stood thier ground. told him that they didn't want to be at his house. they both told him that they want to see him but not at his house. My nine year old looked his father dead in the eye and told him he didn't want to come back to his house ever. I know that it is what they say they want, but it breaks my heart to know that they are this frustrated. we came home and thier father had called and left them a message telling them how much he loved them and missed them. Now mind you I can count on one hand how many times he has called them in the last year. All I can do now is let thme know how loved they are here. We have one week before school starts and I have one more fun outing planned for them. So keep your fingers crossed for us all that this continues to be ok.

welcome to the family Buster

As promised pics of our newest family member. May I introduce Buster Brown. No we had no plans for a new puppy but you know how it is when you fall in love. The kids love him and as you can tell he feels right at home. As I blog this E is now laying down and Buster is laying across him. E said he thinks he found his buddy. The weimaraner loves him, thinks he's a new toy. Now if princess Oki our wiener dog would just decide to like him all would be well.

Troubled children

I know that I have talked about my oldest 2 kids not liking to be with their father before and I have at times thought that it would be better for our family if they didn't have to go so much, but then I also want them to have a relationship with him, so it has been kind of a catch 22. He use to be a great dad, then we split and he is one of those men that cant be alone and has made some choices that may be good for him but not so good for the kids. He has remarried and now has a step son that is 2 yrs younger than E. From what the kids say this boy has major behavior issues and is the major reason they don't like going to their dads. I have always just let them rant and reassured them that we love them. Well this weekend they came home from a week long stay with dad, and K told us that this boy touches himself in front of them ALL the time. They have told their father and he tells them to ignore him. Now I know that little boys get fascinated with their boy parts, and we have always told E that this is normal and if he need or wants to touch himself it's a private thing not to be done in front of others. I guess K has even looked up to see this boy touching himself and while staring at her and smiling. To write this gives me the creeps. Anyway, I am deeply troubled by this and the kids say it's so bad they don't want to be around him. I know if I say anything to the ex or the new wife they will blow it off and blame my kids. I have talked to a few people I know in the system and have found out that there is really nothing I can do legally because they haven't been physically harmed. It sucks to think that I am going to have to fight to keep them away from this. I have searched my mommy handbook and can't find this chapter anywhere. I am open to suggestions.

crazy monday

So today was a long ass day with conference calls on both ends of it but then I got to come home to a great sunset after a great storm!It made the yucky day better that's for sure.

family pics

So no this is not my family but it is a picture that I took of one of the nicest families that I know. I have taken pics of the little boy since he was born. Actually I have taken pics for this family since before there were kids in the family. They are one of the nicest families that I have ever worked with. They are so special to me that I rushed to the studio to take the little guys Christmas pics just and hour after our insemination for S. They were also the first of my clients that I came out to. I guess that is why they are so special. I got a hug and was told they hoped I was happy. They always ask about the wife and kids and are just great great people to be around. I just wanted to share this beautiful family.

I made it!

So today at work I had visitors. My district manager and my regional manager came to spend the day. I love my dm she is a great lady and an awesome photographer. My rm is a very professional man who doesn't even own a digital camera. So my dm was at work when I got there and we talked over coffee. The big guy got there about an hour later. He proceeded to tell me that I need to be better at the paperwork aspect of my job. I should say, I already know this. I am all about the creative part of my job. I think that getting that perfect smile from the little ones is what it's all about. I get the paperwork done but maybe not with all the i's dotted and the t's crossed just right. I do however make a tidy profit for my company. So the day wasn't as bad as it could have been, I am still employed and that is good since I have a wife and kids to feed. I am now sitting here drinking a bloody Mary and watching myth busters with the wife. I love the decompressing part of a stressful day!!!!

weekend update

So I got to keep the kids an extra 12 hours today which was a great surprise. I love when that happens, so do they. I guess that their father had to work his in laws french fry stand today so he couldn't come get them this morning, ohh darn. So the wife and I had the chance to fix a lazy breakfast for them and we re-watched the movie Coraline. It was great,and even if you don't have kids I recommend it. I however love Tim Burton so I may be biased. The two older kids could both sing every song to the Nightmare before Christmas by the time they were 3.

Later in the day we went and took baby bump pictures for a friend of ours and I got my hair cut, and I love it. I have been struggling with letting it grow out some. I will never have long hair again but I had been keepingit cut pretty short and spiky so I think I want something a little longer, maybe a chin length bob, maybe not. then the wife and I decided to be handy and fix our roof. we Had a spot that needed a couple of shingles replaced so we did that this evening while the kids played in the yard. All I really did was sit there and offer moral support and as you can see from the picture( a very bad fuzzy picture) we had a little wiener help. then it was off to take the kids to their dad. so the wife S and I are home now trying to watch a movie. The movie push is not keeping my attention. We have stopped it for ice cream sundaes, slugs on the porch and laundry. I think maybe we should watch Coraline again. I am looking forward to the next couple weeks, then the kids go back to school and the crazy time starts.

My wife,changes might be on the way

I'm not sure what all I have shared about the wife other than that she is the love of my life and sexy as hell. She is also ex-military. She was in the Air force when we met and only got out when we got pregnant for our son. She misses the Air force, I know that she does. We have always talked about her going back if don't ask don't tell went away. well today she decided that the air force reserve might be the way to go. She is going to talk to the recruiter next week and see what they have to offer her. I am excited and worried and excited for her. I know that this would mean big changes for our family and as much as I don't want to have her in the closet I know that she will only be doing this on a part time basis so I can live with it. This is away for her to further her education and when don't ask don't tell goes away we can be the military family that we should have been all along. So keep us in your thoughts, big changes might happen soon